Modern life is lonely

If you know someone who recently divorced after being together for 30 or more years or have thought about it/done it yourself – you are not alone. As is turns out, nowadays there’s a worrying number of the aptly-named “gray divorces”. Why do people split up later in life? Well, it’s a complex issue and there may be several different reasons for that. Let’s go over some of them:

  • Growing Apart.
    This is by far the biggest one. You don’t just fall out of love in an instant. It’s a slow process, it takes time, but in the end, it’s bound to end in divorce. Think of your love as a finite number – once the cracks in your marriage finally reach a critical mass, the whole marriage comes crashing down. According to the studies, there’s a common thread: women feeling like they’ve given up way too much for their partner. This may or not be entirely justified, depending on the case.
  • The Age Factor.
    While a big age difference may not seem like an issue at first, it can cause many problems later in life. Our whole brain chemistry changes at some stages in life, depending on our experiences and conditions – our brains get rewired, somewhat. That’s so many people who hit middle-age and decide to date someone younger. Subconscious or not, they want to go back to the way things were before.
  • The Boredom.
    The last but not the least: people getting bored in their relationship. We, as a species, always crave entertainment, we want something new and exciting. Staying with the same person for God-knows-how-many years can lead to severe boredom. The boredom then leads to people getting complacent which can kill a marriage in no time.